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8 Tips for Coping When Your Partner Is Unfaithful.


One of the most painful things is finding out that your partner has been unfaithful. It can hit you like a ton of bricks. Your relationship may be thrown into a state of crisis that may destroy it when adequate measures are not taken

It is natural to want to know why your partner cheated, but there is rarely a simple answer to why someone becomes unfaithful. It could be a symptom of other problems in your relationship, it could relate to something in your partner’s past, or it could be totally unrelated to you or to your marriage. No matter the cause, you’ll have a lot of complicated feelings to sort through, and a lot to think about as you decide how to move forward. These eight tips can help you cope with the aftermath of betrayal:

Accept Your Feelings
Shock, agitation, fear, pain, depression, and confusion are normal. You are likely to feel like you’re on an emotional rollercoaster for a while.

It takes time to get beyond the pain of having an unfaithful mate. Don’t expect the mixture of feelings and the mistrust to go away even if you’re trying to forgive your partner and repair your relationship.

Your relationship has changed and it is natural to grieve.

Never Seek Revenge.
Being betrayed by your partner can induce rage. In your furious state, your first instinct may be to punish your mate by trash-talking him to friends (or worse, on social media), or think about having an affair yourself to get even.

You may get a temporary sense of satisfaction from these sorts of actions, but ultimately they can work against you, keeping you in a state of anger instead of focusing on healing and moving on, alone or together.

Think before you tell your anyone, as well. They will likely have strong opinions about what you should do—leave or stay. But nobody else really understands what goes on in another person’s relationship. While you are pondering how you’re going to proceed, it’s best to keep the details private.

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Take Care of Yourself.
You may have some physical reactions due to stress such as nausea, diarrhea, sleep problems (too little or too much), shakiness, difficulty concentrating, not wanting to eat, or overeating.

Once the initial shock has passed, try your best to eat healthy foods, to stay on a schedule, to sleep regular hours, to get some exercise each day, to drink plenty of water, and, yes, to have some fun.

Avoid the Blame Game
Blaming yourself, your partner, or the third party won’t change anything and it’s just wasted energy.

Try not to play the victim, either, if you can help it, or wallow in self-pity. It will only make you feel more helpless and bad about yourself.

Ignore third party
This situation is between you and your partner and should not involve anyother person. Even if you have decided to end your relationship, sharing details about an affair might cause them anxiety and depression based on the advice they give.

Seek Counseling
Don’t try to get through coping with unfaithfulness alone. Before you make any decisions about whether or not to end your relationship, it’s wise to talk to a counselor, who will be neutral and can help you gain insight into what exactly happened.

You can ask your partner questions and share your feelings without losing your cool.

An experienced therapist can help you communicate better and process feelings of guilt, shame, and whatever else you might be feeling. If you decide to end the relationship, you ‘ll know that you tried your best to make it work.

Get Practical
If you suspect that the affair will most likely lead to the end of your relationship, give some thought to practical matters, such as, asking your partner to be tested for STDs, and to get yourself tested as well if you have had sex during or after the affair.

Take It One Day at a Time.
There is a saying that, “Rome wasn’t built in a day” Infidelity is one of the more difficult challenges a relationship can face, but it doesn’t always mean it’s the end.

As you work through the aftermath over time, it will become clear how to go forward so that the next phase of your life, together or apart, can begin.

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